Cheating; You never really know what you've got til it's gone.

Today in human comm class, we had very a very interesting discussion; about infidelity.

The issue came up after one of the student shared a story about how his first love cheated on him, TWICE (for his presentation). And when everyone else had finished their presentations, we posed a question back at Mr Murali to answer. See, on tuesday when one of the students said something during his presentation about him being faithful to his future wife; Mr Murali sort of made a comment about it being easier said than done to be faithful. And he said to ask him about it later. So today, was "later".

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You guys should know, that I hate cheating. I hate it when people cheat. I hate people who cheat. I hate what cheating does. The thing is, cheating hurts like f**k. It doesn't just hurt the person who is being cheated on, it hurts the person being cheated with, especially if that person doesn't know he or she is being used like that.

The thing is, how many of us would really forgive someone who's cheated on us and take them back? If someone I felt like I really loved cheated on me, and i mean like really loved, I don't think I could do it. Knowing that he has touched someone else the same way he touched me, wanting to know if things were better with the other person, wanting to know how he REALLY feels about me and the other person. And if I were to take him back, the constant wondering if he misses her, wondering if he's secretly seeing her, wondering if he's thinking about her when he's with me; it would eventually kill me.

But the thing is, I can't say that I most definitely wouldnt take him back. It's always possible when we love someone so much, that we'd be willing to overlook their mistakes, as major as they may be. But in a way, I feel like really, if you can cheat once, you can do it again. And I dont want to be with someone who has hurt me that way.

Because, you know what cheating says? Cheating on someone tells them that you're just not good enough for them. That everything you do for them, isn't enough and that's why they look for it elsewhere. Because you're inadequate.

But you know what? No one is bloody perfect. It's like Andrew (i think) in my Human Comm class said about the 80-20% thing. It's from some movie. It's like; if you have someone who give's you 80% of everything you want and need, and you find someone who gives you that 20% that you want, would you really throw away the person that gives you 80% of what you need? Would you really give up everything you have with one person, just for a mere 20% to satisfy yourself?

Truth is, logically, or course we'd all say no. But I think in a way we wouldn't understand it until we're really put in that position. Whatever said and done, nothing justifies cheating. Well, almost nothing. I feel like nowadays, people just take people for granted. People really should know, you never really know what you're got til it's gone.