It's hard, relationships. It's hard knowing just how much of yourself to give to the other person and just how much of them to take. Giving parts of yourself to someone, gives them power to hurt you. And taking parts of them, gives you power to hurt them.
Of course, no one really thinks about this kind of thing because, well, the point of getting in a relationship is letting yourself be vulnerable in hopes of finding real love, isn't it? Not about hurting someone else because if you're thinking about hurting them so early on in the relationship, you've already decided you're not giving the relationship a fighting chance.
People who have been hurt and used incessantly, you can't blame them for being twice as careful about anyone, whether it's giving parts of themselves or taking parts of someone else. I think one of the important things, among many other things to consider, is this: Do you really see a clear future with this person? Can you really? Because if you can't, you're wasting everyone's time continuing a relationship that may not have a future and in the long run, feelings will grow and people will be hurt. Best to let them go now than later on because it will hurt more then.
It's important to think about yourself, but never forget that you're not the only person in a relationship.
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